"Your 20's are your 'selfish' years. It's a decade to immerse yourself in every single thing possible. Be selfish with your time, and all the aspects of you. Tinker with shit, travel, explore, love a lot, love a little, and never touch the ground."
- Kyoko Escamilla
Never touch the ground. I like that. Our parents always tell us, as soon as we enter college, to keep our feet firm on the ground. Our head straight on our shoulders. Our eyes on the prize. Society makes it seem like there are certain steps we all must take to get to a certain place that is acceptable for our age. Do this and go there to get that. Repeat. Do this go there to get that. Repeat. As if life were a lifeless game of left and right. It seems so mindless doesn't it?
But we are mechanically engineered to do exactly the opposite, even if we know it isn't good for us. We can't help it. The forces within us work against what society wants of us when we are in our 20's. Testing us. Teasing us. Drowning us. Watching us fall and get up and awkwardly brush ourselves off. And then fall again. All while most likely laughing at us as we experiment and push our limits and make decisions that are most likely the worst decision over and over again. But never should we have to suffer the feeling of regret because of these decisions. Believe it or not, we can come out of them smarter and stronger as long as we allow ourselves to. And as long as we receive the respect and encouragement to. The encouragement to focus on the future, not the negativity of the now.
The things we do in our 20's most likely will stay with us forever. The good and the bad and the in-between. An impression left for the rest of our lives. They should be savored to be tasted for a lifetime. These memories stretched. A bit hazy around the edges yet still as strong as if we were transported back into those moments once again to experience and watch from afar. Watching ourselves from afar and thinking we know better yet actually not knowing at all . . . as if we are doing it for the first time all over again. Firsts. Innocence. Curiosity. They are so rare. So beautiful.
Being unsure of everything around us sums up our 20's, but that is the loveliness of it. The unknown, the undecided, the absolutely ridiculous uncertainty of being in your 20's is why it's so exciting. No mistake has to last forever, but it can be remembered. It's mark left and meant to be eventually learned from. And because we learn, no mistake was actually ever a mistake at all.
So jump from that cliff into the water below. Ride your bike with your eyes closed. Kiss that boy like you've never kissed a boy before, even though you can't remember his name. Cry your heart out in public because you just don't give a fuck. Slow it down or go extra fast. Don't keep your heart trapped, keep it open to as many as you want. Don't feel at all or feel absolutely everything. There are no rules, just the one's you make on your own. Give into your impulses. Let the emotions run through your veins like lightning hits the ground. Hit the ground running, yet never stop when someone says to. Hit the ground running, yet don't hit the ground at all.